Those who are nervous to go to events, I get it. It is not easy getting up the courage to walk into a room full of strangers, start conversations, and put yourself out there. If you consider yourself socially awkward, these tips are for you.
Preparation Is Key
Before attending an event, prepare a few conversation starters. Think about current events, recent Jewish holidays, or questions you can ask others about themselves. Having a few topics in your back pocket takes the pressure off thinking on the spot.
Start Small
You do not have to be the life of the party. Start by talking to one person. Find someone who also looks like they are standing alone, and introduce yourself. One good conversation is more valuable than working the entire room.
Use the Power of Listening
Socially awkward people often worry about what to say. The secret? Ask questions and listen. People love talking about themselves, and being a good listener is one of the most attractive qualities you can have.
Give Yourself Permission to Leave
Set a goal: stay for 30 minutes. If you are having a terrible time after 30 minutes, give yourself permission to leave. Often, knowing you can leave makes it easier to stay.
Practice Makes Progress
Social skills are like any other skill: they improve with practice. The more events you attend, the easier it gets. Do not expect perfection; aim for progress.
Online Dating as a Bridge
If in-person events feel overwhelming, platforms like JMeetups let you connect from the comfort of your home first. You can get to know someone through messages before meeting face to face, which can ease a lot of the anxiety.
Being socially awkward does not mean you are broken. It just means you experience social situations differently. Your bashert will appreciate the real you.