You are not alone. Many single Jewish women and men are faced with what to do on Shabbos, and it can be quite challenging. When everyone around you seems to be celebrating with family, being single on Shabbos can feel lonely. But it does not have to be that way.
You Are Not the Only One
First, know that thousands of Jewish singles spend Shabbos on their own every week. It is not a reflection of your worth or your social skills. It is simply a reality of single life, and there is nothing wrong with it.
Making Shabbos Meaningful Alone
- Create your own rituals: Light candles, make kiddush, and enjoy a nice meal even if it is just for you. You deserve the beauty of Shabbos
- Cook something special: Use the time to try a new recipe. Treat yourself to a meal you really enjoy
- Read and learn: Use the quiet time for Torah learning, reading a good book, or personal reflection
- Rest: Shabbos is literally designed for rest. Take a nap, go for a walk, and recharge
Finding Community
- Reach out to friends early in the week and make plans for Shabbat meals
- Ask your rabbi or rebbetzin if they know of families hosting singles
- Check JMeetups for local Shabbat events or community meals
- Host your own! Invite a few other singles over for a potluck Shabbat
Changing Your Perspective
Shabbos alone does not have to mean Shabbos lonely. It can be a time of peace, self-care, and spiritual growth. Many people find that once they learn to appreciate Shabbos on their own, they are even better prepared to share it with a partner someday.
Shabbos is a gift. Whether you spend it with a crowd or in quiet solitude, it is yours to cherish.